Burial or cremation

In many cases, the deceased will have left word or intimated verbally whether they preferred a burial or cremation. The choice is very personal and may be influenced by a family’s tradition or religion.

For a burial

It might seem obvious but if the funeral is to be a burial, there will need to be a burial plot or space. It could be that a space has already been reserved, such as an existing family burial plot. (Check in the will for this information or ask close family members if you do not already have this information.)

If not, you may need to find and pay for a burial plot in a churchyard or cemetery. The cost of some plots where space is limited can be high. A cemetery burial will also require a memorial headstone, or a new inscription on an existing headstone.

Perhaps you might consider a woodland burial, which is available in many places in the UK.

A burial will usually be preceded by a funeral service in a local church or in a cemetery chapel.


For a cremation

It is possible to hold a service in a church before proceeding to the crematorium. Here, you can take advantage of another service in the crematorium building. The alternative is to simply hold the whole funeral at the crematorium.

Cremations usually cost less that a burial and the choice of service can be religious or non-religious.

You will also need to decide on the final resting place of the ashes. Many people choose to take away the ashes of their loved one in an urn and decide later on to scatter or bury them.


Poem

Death be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not so, For, those, whom thou think'st, thou dost overthrow, Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill me.


– John Donne (1572-1631) –